Tuesday, March 22, 2011

I Approve This Messsage

In my quest for self-acceptance, I’ve turned to Louise L. Hay for help. In her book, “You Can Heal Your Life,” she has a great “I Approve of Myself” exercise.

The exercise calls for you to repeat: “I approve of myself.” Shocker? Probably not. What is, the number of times instructed to say it: three to four hundred times a day.

It only seemed like too many times until I thought about the amount of dialogue that goes on in my head everyday. That realization left the three to four hundred times a day seemingly accomplishable over my lunch break. But I don’t think Ms. Hay meant for me to treat it like a tongue twister.

According to the book, saying “I approve of myself” is a “guaranteed way to bring up everything buried in your consciousness that is in opposition.”

Trust me, Ms. Hay, my negative thoughts don’t need encouragement. They already run through my mind on an endless loop. I hardly notice them. They have become the background noise forever influencing, even if I don’t hear them.

So I’m making an effort to say it. Yes, I feel ridiculous. But, seriously, what started out as funny became sad. Because when you listen to yourself say the good, you’re still listening when the bad comes after it. And I’ve come to realize how hard I am on myself.

And some of the catty comments that talk back are true. So all I can say is, “Even so, I still approve of myself.”


  1. Don't believe any of the catty comments. You are always doing the most you are capable of at the moment. Negative thoughts about yourself are sabotage. And that book is full of wisdom.

  2. Great Idea. And for what it is worth - I approve of you and think you are wonderful and inspirational. {{{HUGS}}}

  3. I'm supposed to tell myself every morning "I'm going to have a good day today." But I've been forgetting to say it...which is probably why my days are so uneventful.

  4. And here I thought I was the only one who talked catty to their self :) Maybe we can approve of each other and won't have to listen to catty.
    Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

  5. I love your resilience in saying, "Even so, I still approve of myself". Yay!!
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  6. I approve of you. There has to be a better way to say it! Yes, you rock!